In the past few months of being actively involved in the gay community, after years and years of hybernating (leading domesticated non-scene gay life), I was reminded of the somehow chaotic, dramatic and yet exciting lives of the queens in the open fields.
Meet for example the following (of course not their real names)
Ricky – a 25 year old pinoy gay guy who is still living with his family/parents and is now partially open of his sexuality. Often picks up or being picked up at venues and gaybars for one night stands. He said that he would go for the second date and usually stops at the third encounters as he would get bored afterwards. He has mastered the hazy division between LOVE and LUST. Had previously been in a (boyfriend) relationship that only lasted for three months. He broke up with his boyfriend as he found out that he was having other extra curricular activities. Ricky said that he does not like open relationships. He’d rather remain single until he finds someone who shares his beliefs and principles. As to when? Only time will tell.
Judelle – 38 years old Filipino gay guy. Currently living with an old friend with whom he bought an apartment in the city. He is also “happily” in pseudo open relationship with an older ozzie guy. He admits to being on the look out for possible flings with guys preferably straight and married. And the only way he could get away with this is to advertise himself as a transvestite. He said that straight guys loves him when wears girls’ outfits!
Kristofer, 24 year old and working as a bartender in a local club. He is a bit on the wild side and goss is that he is into all sort of stuff, even drugs. This explains his very skinny frame and the volcanic ruptures on his face and body. He is also dabbling into drag performances and is quite popular due to his dance moves. His ads is that he was a former member of a dance group in the Philippines. He is a bit of a playgay and he boasts of his various conquests – like he would say he’d done that boy and that - or done or being done by most of the attractive boys in the scene. Mind you, he also has a girlfriend who is working in the Middle East, and he has not admitted being gay to his family – although he is gayer than the word gay itself!